Three mothers with children gathered at the playground. His mom says: “I have a child - indigo! He needs to develop, he experiments "... His mom explains: "I have a highly sensitive child, he, if he has already taken molds and scoops for sand, cannot part with them, it's hard for him"... The third mother suppresses the indignation of other mothers: “I have a hyperactive child. He needs to throw out his energy "... What are the terms, what are the children?
- I have a child - indigo!
- I have a child - highly sensitive!
- My child is hyperactive!
Parents who use such phrases mean the following:
- the child is normal, although not like everyone else;
- nothing can be done about it - he was born that way.
And how are things really?
Indigo aura
"Indigo children". The concept appeared with the light hand of the psychic Nancy Ann Tapp in 1960. And much later, in 1982, her book “Understanding Your Life with Color” became very popular. And the parents breathed a sigh of relief, it turned out that 70% of children under 10 years old have an indigo aura, meaning special mental and psychological characteristics. And then it fades away ...
Indigo children:
- restless and very energetic;
- do not recognize authorities;
- choose an individual job;
- have the gift of telepathy;
- with a high level of creative and mental abilities, but need the assistance of adults to reveal their potential;
- love to gain knowledge through experience;
- impervious to traditional methods of education;
- have difficulty communicating with peers;
- at the slightest misunderstanding, they withdraw into themselves;
- impulsive, their mood changes every second and depends on little things;
- have a sense of increased social injustice;
- have heightened intuition, are able to quickly assimilate new knowledge.
How to handle an indigo child? Develop his talents. Provide free choice of actions, and at the same time, learn to say “no” correctly. Be there (take care, attract the right teachers).
Indigo children were considered almost a new race of people, our future, etc. But more than thirty years have passed. They grew up and nothing new happened. Films were shot about them, articles and books were written. But there is still no scientific confirmation of the phenomenon. Nowadays, interest in indigo children is almost lost. But other children - highly sensitive ones - come to the fore.
Feelings are heightened to the limit
In 2013, Helen Eiron's book "Highly Sensitive Child" became popular in our country. The author is a psychologist with great experience, defines the concept itself and opens the eyes of parents to the rules for dealing with their own child. There are many grateful reviews, moms and dads took this book with a bang. Why then?
Helen Eiron believes that highly sensitive children (15-20% of them) have the gift of receiving more information from the outside world than their peers.
Highly sensitive children:
- be wary of others;
- hypersensitive to pain;
- often get sick;
- meteosensitive (react to weather and climate changes);
- shrewd, can surprise with predictions that come true;
- are acutely aware of social injustice;
- are very irritable (they can be freaked out by inappropriate clothing, loud noises, stuffy room, noise, sudden event);
- get tired quickly;
- feel fear of everything new - travel, food ... especially do not like surprises;
- a new type of activity is carefully considered, and therefore they are often considered slow-witted and incapable; however, if you deal with them gently and regularly, then they show high abilities in almost all areas, use complex words, think "like an adult";
- have increased demands on themselves and after the first failure they give up the case, therefore it is important to be near, guide and support;
- have almost no friends, since friends can go beyond the boundaries of the child's sensitivity and be unpleasant to him.
What if you have a highly sensitive child?
- Always support him, emphasize his dignity, spend more time with him;
- Respect his feelings and personal territory, talk calmly and kindly (more about this in the article Personal territory of a child or respect from an early age);
- Learn to understand other people and take failure philosophically;
- Provide your child with a comfortable life.
No, this is not an active child, but a hyperactive one!
Who is a hyperactive child and how to live with him? It seems that the term hyperactivity is quite a scientific one. No. This is also just a definition of the child's behavior.
Hyperactive children:
- are ahead in development of their peers;
- have a sharp mind and tenacious memory;
- very mobile;
- get tired quickly and at the same time do not rest like the rest, but begin to move even more, fall into hysterics and in every possible way attract attention to themselves;
- quickly become hungry - this is normal with such and such activity;
- they cannot stand loud sounds, cannot be in a stuffy room;
- experience a huge range of feelings;
- instantly change the mood, which depends on the smallest nuances;
- impressionable;
- alert to everything new;
- need the increased attention of adults.
How to behave with a hyperactive child? Remove all irritants, establish contact. Determine the rules of conduct that the child understands and do not change them. Give specific, simple assignments and praise for completing them. Help your baby follow the daily routine. Praise for all that is good, and discuss things that do not work out calmly. Build your baby's strengths. Channel energy in the right direction.
Do not hang labels, but act!
You can think of the child as anything you want, but know that you definitely need to show him to a neuropsychiatrist, if you have:
- difficulties in communicating with peers (difficulties in socialization);
- problems with the assimilation of school material (the postulate that the teacher does not understand the child is not accepted. In this case, you must choose a suitable educational institution for the child and do everything to ensure that he receives a good education);
- poor appetite;
- frequent illnesses (every month or more);
- increased physical activity;
- unreasonable outbursts of aggression and anger.
Doctors believe thatall children need extra attention from their parents. But this is not the kind of attention when the child is dragged along developmental activities and bought sweets with things. Attention is time spent together, adequate communication and timely assistance to resolve conflict situations and socialize the child.
But how can you show your child your love, care and attention? "I think about you, you are important to me, I love you, you are the best in the world!" When love overwhelms, we share it easily and with pleasure!
If your fantasy ends with verbal confessions, here are 20 more ways to show your baby that you love him! Some, for sure, have been practicing for a long time and often, something will become new! Download the 20 Ways to Show Your Love to Children Checklist
