Who said that children are the flowers of life ?! Whoever it was - he was definitely in the subject! But how to organize household chores when you have a whole "flower bed"? Tatiana described the real day of one large family.
How it all started
Like all normal young people, I made quite adequate plans for the future: graduate from a university, find a good job, earn credibility, and after all this, by the age of thirty, I will give birth to ONE! a child and always a boy. I will say right away that I succeeded. I managed to give birth to my first boy)). Of course, a development plan was also provided for the heir: an advanced school, sports, a theater club and the best university, to choose from. Oddly enough, my husband was not included in my projects.
No wonder they say: "if you want to make God laugh, tell him your plans for tomorrow." And literally on the eve of my twenty-second birthday Andreika appeared. This event shocked me so much that after a year and a half I wanted to experience it again and gave birth to Artyom, and in order to finally convince me that this was not a dream, Grigory appeared four years later. But for some reason I was haunted by the feeling that I had not fulfilled the master plan of fate.
And then I came across an article about family orphanages. I was shocked like a shock - that's it! I became pregnant with the idea of "giving birth" to four children at once. Nine months later, I succeeded and now our family consists of ten people: four sons, three little daughters, a husband with his guardian Volodya and me.
Since then, our life has become like a roller coaster ride - every day is full of events, but it is so terribly interesting that television "nervously smokes on the sidelines", he never dreamed of our comedies, dramas and action films. Sometimes, before going to bed, I remember my girlish plans with a smile and I am glad that they did not come true, because then my life would not be so interesting and immensely promising.
39 children - mother-heroine with many children:
An ordinary day of many mom, or - please leave the faint of heart
All roles are major:
Mnogopa, Mnogoma, Sveta (16 years old), Andrey, (14 years old), Artyom (almost 12 years old), Grigory (8 years old), Lyuba (10 years old), Katya (6 years old), Pavel (5 years old), Volodya ( 25 years).
As always, an unexpected alarm clock rings a bullet between the shoulder blades, runs trembling along the spine, and you understand - that's it! But we still have to win back from Morpheus warm, sniffing babies and adolescents. It is necessary to collect all the will into a fist and embark on a cycle of events.
Everyone yawns desperately, groans, thinking of how not to go to school today, but to climb back into the warm cocoon of the blanket. I do not prevent them from dreaming about themselves about the unrealizable, urging those who lag behind to wash, along the way, helping to find socks and tidy up the rooms. And, finally, after breakfast, with howling: "Today we will definitely be late!"
Phew! My husband and I enjoy a well-deserved moment of peace and quiet. We slowly have breakfast and over tea, discussing the upcoming business. Now it's time to wake up Volodya, our 25-year-old ward with the mind of a five-year-old child. Vova does not like when children make noise, but he loves to talk to us, talk about his plans for today and talk about what he dreamed about. After washing, he enjoys breakfast, drinks a cup of tea with homemade jam, and plunges into his studies.
Create or sleep - that is the question ...
Most people are mistaken in thinking that all mothers with many children, and even more so with a family orphanage, do not work in the conventional sense, but only around the house. “I won't tell you about all of Odessa ..”, but this is definitely not about me. The Internet is our everything! Including interesting work without leaving home.
The silence of the morning is conducive to writing texts, unless the day before the Muse glued you to your computer until late at night. Then the stillness of the early morning acts like a patented sleeping pill. You can allow yourself a couple of hours to take a nap and gain strength for a new "battle".
The cook from the factory canteen was crying!
Cooking in a 5-liter saucepan is like asking me to wear booties! Large forms are taken in our house. The most rarely used, "small" saucepan of 8 liters. Well, what can you cook in it? Is that porridge for one tooth. Here are ten, thirteen liters - this is our size, pans are just right. Oddly enough, if you know how to cook dinner for 3 people, further increase in the number of eaters no longer matters. Just a little extra time and Voila! lunch for ten of 3-4 dishes (a portion of soup, a pack of porridge, a bowl of salad and a huge frying pan with cutlets) plus the compote is ready!
Well, hello - this is us!
By 16, a gang of teenagers flies into the house. Everyone is hungry, disheveled and overwhelmed with news. They sit noisily around the table, grab the tastiest pieces from their plates and vying with each other to talk about school events. This is happiness! But it's too early to relax! Soon you have to go to meet the kids from the kindergarten and you can't miss the right moment.
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Learning is hard - but life will be interesting
The hardest part of a multimam's life is doing homework. Children are of different ages with different abilities, inclinations, and some simply cannot concentrate for a long time. You need to find your own approach to everyone - where by washing, where by rolling.
And also the responsibility of the elders is to help the kids - this is home tutoring. For good academic performance of the "student", the "tutor" is rewarded with additional time for computer games or something else at will.
I have noticed that the foster children show more diligence in their homework. Apparently, they are more in need of the feeling of closeness that hovers over their heads during general activities.
Outdoor games in the fresh air
Our generation has the brightest childhood impressions associated with the summer in the village, with grandparents. My children live in such expanse all year round. In the summer - bicycles, fishing, swimming in the river, hiking for berries and mushrooms, and along the way we come up with different games, quests, quizzes. In winter - skis, skates, snow fights, sledges. Fortunately, we have more than enough slides! When they burst into the house, covered with snow from head to foot, flushed and with a wolfish appetite, it becomes clear that the day was intense. Children learn the living world not from books, but every day, observing the amazing natural diversity around them. Not to mention astronomy at arm's length. SEE the stars here!
Are they gadgets or gadgets?
It doesn't matter what you call them, but it is impossible to imagine modern life without a TV and a computer, a smartphone and a tablet. And no matter how adults groan that children spend too much time on the Internet, nothing can be done about it. Now, not letting your child communicate in social networks is like not letting your friends walk outside in the 80s. I would also like to shorten these endless sessions a little, but Sveta has long been engaged in her Instagram page and makes live broadcasts there, Andrey, Grigory and Tyoma hang out on YouTube, looking for videos about survival in extreme conditions and the creation of unusual mechanisms. And the small ones, of course, surrender to the slavery of animated series. I don't bother too much about this, because I know from myself that if something is really interesting, there will always be time for it.
Debriefing, or who is without sweets today!
In a large family, conflicts of various sizes are indispensable, no matter how hard you try. Sometimes it seems to someone that household chores are distributed unfairly, sometimes disputes arise literally over a trifle. And in order to repay the serious confrontation in time, before the process gains momentum, a family veche is gathering. Of course, other current or prospective cases are also discussed here. The council drags on, sometimes even breaking the end time. I have a quiet suspicion that it is for this that teenagers start quarrels)). One thing is good that most of the problems are solved immediately on the spot, without reaching the council.
Evening together - reboot
When the day comes to an end, the lessons are done, the games are over, the rituals of going to bed begin, and everyone has their own. Each of the four rooms where the children sleep becomes a small theater with its own action. Katya and Pavlusha are making themselves comfortable in bed, anticipating a new fairy tale that I have invented for them. The older girls climb into the bathroom for half an hour and splash around as if they've been loading coal all day. The boys got to their father and find out from him all the secrets of the world or discuss the latest scientific news. Volodya is waiting for the little ones to calm down to sit with us at the table with evening tea and conversation. Suddenly, silence falls on us and we, as in slow motion, stretch the pleasure and dream about the future.
Of course, summer makes significant adjustments to this routine, when children are on vacation, and we can afford many days of hiking in our places and other joys. But I promised to describe a typical weekday. Slightly paraphrasing Alexander Sergeevich, "... here, take him soon!" And you know what? Life in such a big family is always new, with unexpected turns and a lot of amazing events! Children are so different, spontaneous teach me how to live right and enjoy every day!
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Found a video of the Vershinin family (one day of a large family)
