The number of children with nervous diseases is increasing every year. According to experts, among younger schoolchildren, only less than half are psychologically healthy. The reasons for this phenomenon are increasingly becoming family problems. In this article we will tell you how to raise a neurotic out of an ordinary child, but we hope that with your child you will adhere to exactly opposite principles of upbringing.
Perhaps in any psychological book you can find numerous tips on how to properly monitor children. This time we will do the opposite and talk about how you can not behave with kids under no condition. Unless, of course, you want them to acquire persistent neurotic disorders.
- Each time, emphasize that you are not interested in the offspring himself, but only in his achievements: high marks, sports successes, praise from other people. Get associates: educators who demonstrate his worthlessness in public, relatives who express surprise at his weak knowledge. Do not forget that the opinion of others is extremely important to you.
- It is easier to educate a neurotic by common efforts. Of course, even one mom is able to scold and praise the child at the same time, but with dad it is much easier to do this. In addition, if children do not contemplate your quarrels and scandals every day, how can they build “correct” relationships in the family, at work,
in prison, Eventually. In the event of your divorce, repeat that they have bad heredity. - If a child is more often ridiculed, then he will grow up timid, which means that they will rather feel sorry for him than offend. Agree, it's funny when "ears like Cheburashka", "nose like old woman Shapoklyak." And the phrase “you are fat,” said to a teenage girl, of course, will send her to a model school and will lead, if not to fame, then to anorexia.
- Never explain anything, guided by the following rules: "small, so he will not understand" and "grow up - he will guess himself." Even a two-year-old is able to understand "simple and precise" statements: "behave yourself", "do the right thing" and "don't be a fool." But in the future, you will be able to pin up a teenager with the fact that he does not understand basic things.
- Become babayas, evil policemen, gray tops who will be dragged away into the unknown. By the age of five, monsters in the dark room and under the bed will join this cheerful company. Have fun with phobias sincerely and cheer up with the words "don't be a coward", "stop roaring."
- Tell us that there are only scoundrels and scoundrels around. A daughter should learn from an early age that all young people are bastards (the best example is her unlucky father), and a son, that all girls are bitches. Perhaps the child will have problems with his personal life, but he will not leave your care. (How to teach a child to talk to strangers on the street)
- Punish for any wrongdoing and make you ask for forgiveness. Do not be afraid to put in a corner, lock in a closet, flog with an officer's belt, not communicate for days, threaten to "give someone else's uncle." The kid needs to wonder with trepidation what you think of for a more serious offense. This will teach him that "initiative is punishable" and discourage the desire to "do something wrong."
- Ask to trust you, and then, having learned the necessary information, punish. Constantly arrange searches and interrogations, read emails and correspondence on social networks. Remember that children are insidious and do everything in spite of their parents. Optimal phrases: "tell the truth and I will not punish you", "why are you doing this", "who taught you."
- Your offspring does not fantasize, but deliberately deceives! It is in your power to train him to lie more subtly. The key sentences will help him in this: “you’re lying,” “you think I don’t recognize your lies,” “God, how can you invent such a thing.” For every case of lies (even if unproven), inevitable retribution follows.
- Impose gender roles from a young age: the boy does not shed tears, does not take offense, is not afraid of anything, and the girl does not run during recess, is always modest and quiet. Let the son immediately learn to hide his emotions, and then rip them off on others. The daughter polishes her seduction skills in advance in order to get what she wants.
- Deprive children of choice and impose their own opinions. Why should they suffer and go the unbeaten path? Your baby must reach those heights that his parents could not reach, and must not repeat his mother's or father's mistakes.
- Be sure to take out your bad mood and negative emotions on it. Agree that this is more convenient and safer. And when the mother feels better and a cheerful mood returns to her, the child will also feel happier.
- At some point, be sure to contact a neurologist or psychiatrist to "provide yourself with an alibi." The teenager already needs to understand that not everything is in order with him: you are taking care of his life to the best of your ability, but he does not appreciate it. Father and mother do not need to change anything in relations with children, because the offspring are always to blame!
If you follow the above tips, then with one hundred percent probability you will bring up a neurotic. Whether he will be grateful to you is unknown, but psychologists will thank you for new clients with fears, depression and self-doubt. But whether you want to see your child in their row is up to you.
