There are no perfect people. Everyone knows this, but many parents are sure: "These 5 points must be followed in order to become a good mother to your child." In practice, not everyone has the time, patience, and ability to fully meet these requirements. However, this does not mean at all that they are bad parents.
1. Breastfeed as long as possible
At least up to one year. If possible, it is worth continuing to breastfeed for another 1-2 years. This will reduce the risk of developing breast cancer in a woman, and it is very beneficial for the child.
However, more and more modern mothers refuse to breastfeed. The reasons are different:
- you need to return to work early, but you can't express milk during the day;
- you have to take medications that are prohibited during lactation;
- I just don't feel like breastfeeding, etc.
Some mothers simply do not have milk or it is not enough for the baby to eat, as a result, thousands of women feed their children with formula. Is this a sufficient argument to accuse them of being bad mothers?
2. Keep in touch with your child throughout the day
It is important to observe the measure here. There are such parents who every hour inquire about how the baby ate, what he painted, whether he went to the toilet. With their increased attentiveness, they risk harming the baby more than benefiting him.
Modern mothers often call their children only on business, and find out all the details in the evening, when the whole family gathers at home. Psychologists support this position, since it is much more important to spend quality time with a child, and not to make a certain number of calls.
3. Stop spoon feeding as early as possible
If a child has grown up, but they continue to feed him from a spoon, this no longer indicates parental care, but a desire not to waste time and keep the kitchen clean. This is quite normal, no one will judge you for this. On the other hand, psychologists recommend from an early age to teach the baby to eat with his own hands, and this must be taken literally. After all, the kid still does not know how to wield a spoon and a fork.
If you are a supporter of early development, then allow your child to make mistakes and eat lunch on their own. Let him squeeze boiled carrots, potatoes, beets in handles, crush vegetables. Of course, you need to mentally prepare yourself for the mess in the kitchen and bright spots on the wallpaper.
An important rule for those moms and dads who strictly follow the order and are ready to spoon feed the baby as much as needed: if a toddler wants to take a spoon with his handle, do not forbid him to get this experience. Even if there is porridge in the plate, there will be a strong mess, but it is better to clean up the kitchen than in the future to get a schoolboy who can not do anything at all.
4. Weekends are for kids only
Children need communication, especially with their parents. Despite this, many are not ready to spend all their free time on the weekend exclusively with the child. Many psychologists believe this is correct, because you cannot live solely for the sake of children. The main thing that any child needs is for his parents to be happy.
You don't need to sit at home with your baby all weekend just because you rarely communicate on weekdays. Go to the playground, visit. You yourself will be able to communicate with different people, but at the same time spend time with your child.
It is worth mentioning separately that "all the best is for children." Maybe someone will call you an ideal parent for such self-sacrifice. Yet now many parents and psychologists are ready to argue with this.
5. The task of a woman is to enjoy motherhood
Babies grow up very quickly. It seems that yesterday he was lying in the crib with a rattle in his hands, but today he is already going to school. Of course, it would be good if a woman got real pleasure from raising a baby. Only many modern mothers do not consider motherhood as their destination. Therefore, they spend a lot of money to pay for babysitting and deliberately refuse those precious hours of communication with the baby, which will not be repeated.
In this matter, all mothers are divided into 2 opposite camps, each of them considers himself to be right. Only there is no perfect solution. Therefore, family psychologists simply advise you to find the option for raising crumbs that will be optimal for your family.
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