Note for moms: 10 bad habits to get rid of

I want to think that I am a good role model for my children. But I also understand that I make enough mistakes in their upbringing. I am clearly aware of this and do not hide it. Overall, I can be called a good mother, but like other moms, I have some punctures.

Many people think that daily bad habits (and we are not talking about smoking and even more about alcohol now) are an integral part of life. I will allow myself to disagree with this. Because “health” refers not only to the physical state of the body, but also to the spiritual, it is also about the state of mind, which is no less important. And bad habits negatively affect the functioning of the body as a whole.

Children tend to take an example from their parents. For this example to be worthy, mothers need to get rid of bad habits. I want to draw your attention to the 10 most common and negatively affecting the upbringing of children.

1. The habit of self-criticism

I have said many times in front of children that I look bad and I don't like myself. And I am ashamed of these words. The fact that children hear their mother speak derogatory about her appearance or actions will not give them confidence in themselves. Any child should be confident in his mother, but how to be confident in her if she is not sure of herself. I want my kids to be like me. Therefore, I will try to say only good things about myself, without any criticism.

2. The habit of being overly worried and annoyed

I am a real alarmist. Of course, not all mothers are like me, but I know many who are like me. The habit of constantly worrying, worrying for no reason and driving yourself into stress is very exhausting. Our irritation and concern is reflected both in children (children are very sensitive to our constant stress) and in our spouse. As a result, an uncomfortable, tense atmosphere reigns in the family.

3. The habit of haste everywhere and in everything

Moms have many challenges every day. And they all try to do it non-stop, without rest breaks. It seems that this way you can do everything and even more. But, in fact, not even half of what was planned can be done. My children and my husband suffer from the fact that I am constantly bustling and hurrying. I am upset that no one is doing what I ask or is doing it too slowly. Instead of keeping our family ship afloat, the family just wants to escape it. As a result, I get upset and start to conflict with everyone. Mom should not teach children how to live in the hustle and bustle, but show by her own example that quickness and regularity should be a priority.

4. The habit of dependence on the opinions of others

I am always afraid of condemnation: from my husband, parents, friends and even unfamiliar people (from our children's teachers, pediatrician, mothers in the neighborhood). Whatever the reason for the fear, it doesn't have to be! I want my children to know that their mother has her own opinion and is 100% sure of what she is doing. Even if my thoughts and actions cause criticism and sidelong glances from others. From childhood, mothers should teach their children to ignore sidelong glances or words of disapproval. Otherwise, the child will do only what other people want throughout his life.

5. The habit of eating as you have to

I have a special relationship with food. I think for a long time what and when it is better for me to eat so that the numbers on the scales are not frightening, and then I can break loose and finish the rest of the dinner that was prepared for the whole family. Mom shouldn't do that! Nutrition should be healthy and balanced.

Mothers often convince their children that they need to eat well and do their best to do this. However, for some reason they themselves do the opposite, and children perceive such behavior as "Only children should eat well!" As a result, when they grow up, like their mother, they begin to interrupt themselves with sandwiches and coffee.

6. The habit of taking on too much

The ability to say no is important for everyone! We must learn to respond to requests in such a way that we do not allow others to sit on our necks.

7. The habit of putting your interests last

When I don't take care of myself and don't rest, it's not just me that suffers - the whole family suffers. Every mother should have time to rest and take care of herself. If this moment is neglected, the whole family will suffer. A rested mother communicates with her loved ones more calmly and kindly. And there is no need to feel guilty when you try to give a little attention to yourself.

8. The habit of giving offense / shutting yourself up

I constantly teach my children that you need to be able to stand up for yourself, but I myself cannot utter a word in front of the offender, and I myself instantly shut up as soon as it comes down to it. Why am I doing this? This behavior of mine looks strange and puts children in an unpleasant situation. And I have to show them an example of how you can politely but firmly put offenders in their place.

9. The habit of comparing yourself to other people

This habit does not make me better, but envy towards other people. If a mother wants to raise self-sufficient children, then they should not be allowed to hear from her any comparisons of themselves with others. This teaches children to envy. Also, children of mothers who love to compare will never understand that a person will be successful only when he stops wanting what someone has. Dreams come true if they are only your dreams. If you compare yourself with someone, then with yourself in the past.

10. The habit of neglecting caring for your marriage

Your relationship with your spouse is the foundation on which your children will build their own relationship. This happens in most cases. Your children's own family relationships in the future will be based on the relationship that develops between you and your spouse. In adulthood, children begin to copy the family life of their parents. This is why your husband should treat his wife as he would like his daughter's husband to treat her.

So, I noted 10 bad habits in myself and I start to fight them. I have something to work on to become a good example for my children. Try not to miss the moment when you can still change and show them, not in words, but by example, what kind of person you need to be. Remember, not only the present, but also the future of your children depends on you! Start listening and treating yourself better - and become an exemplary mom with me!