Psychologists say that families in which the father devotes a lot of time to communicating with the baby, takes an active part in his upbringing, give high positive results. Judge for yourself…
Children grow up confident, optimistic, open to the world. These families are close-knit, mostly prosperous and happy.
Let's see what such an important function dad plays in the development of a child.
The role of the father in raising a child
Finally, a baby appeared in the family. Mom is busy with him from morning to night: washing diapers, changing diapers, waving, talking ... But what about dad? And dad is waiting! Waiting for the baby to grow up to go fishing with him. It's not a man's business - to lisp with a child!
Only dad does not understand that when the baby grows up, it will be too late. The right moment has been missed. Why? Because ...
The sooner the better. Due to the lack of practice of communication with the baby in infancy, in the future it will be difficult for the father to establish a bond with him. Many men are simply embarrassed to interact with a baby or consider this a woman's prerogative.
The sooner the dad begins to communicate with the baby, the stronger an emotional connection will be made between them. This affection forms strong, trusting, friendships. The parent understands the child better. Does not perceive him as a competitor for female attention.
Participates in the formation of gender identity. By closely communicating with the child, the father helps him to establish his belonging to one or another sex. Dad demonstrates ready-made stereotypes of actions and emotions for the boy. Promotes the formation of a unity of self-awareness and behavior in accordance with gender. With regard to girls, the father also influences the definition of identity, but this time indirectly. Demonstrates a form of behavior different from the female model.
Serves as a role model for his son. The boy, having related his gender to the representatives of the male community, begins to behave in accordance with it. And who, if not the father, is an example of a worthy example: how to act. Dad brings up honesty, courage, and respect for a woman in his son. Teaches you how to communicate with girls and boys. Encouraging masculine traits and criticizing femininity, he corrects the behavior, manners, actions of his son. The father is involved in the upbringing of the "boy" in the truest sense of the word.
The opposite is true for girls. With praise and compliments, dad stimulates the manifestation of femininity, affection, tenderness in his daughter.
Affects mental development. Psychologists have noticed that in families where the father devotes a lot of time to communicating with the child, children begin to speak faster. Their speech is clear. Men communicate with babies differently. Unlike mothers and grandmothers, they do not lisp, do not distort words (for example: car - "bibika"). Their speech is correct.
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Plus, men and women think differently. The father expands the boundaries of the baby's consciousness. It is easier for him to form cause and effect relationships. By interacting with the child, dad contributes to the active development of logical, concrete and abstract thinking.
Gives positive emotions. Women devote a lot of time to childcare. But men prefer to actively play with them. Dad is a big kid. And this is its advantage. The fun of the father with the baby is different from that of the mother. Physical strength and spontaneity are clearly manifested in them. They are more active and emotional. The kids love it. Such games give bright positive emotions, relieve tension.
Participates in physical development. Dad's games are a good incentive for the baby to develop physically. Sharp and energetic fun: tossing up, riding on your shoulders, somersaulting - train the muscles and the vestibular apparatus. Dynamic movements develop the baby's reaction speed, coordination of movements. Doctors note that children with whom dads play actively in infancy begin to crawl and walk earlier.
Education as a man. No matter how hard single mothers try, only a man can raise a man. Firstly, male paternal support “You can do it!” Plays an important role for the baby.
Secondly, women often criticize fathers for being strict in upbringing. And in vain! It must be remembered that boys are not girls! They have to win a "place in the sun", be strong in spirit and purposeful. Learn to interact with representatives of the male community, be able to speak their language and compete. The father is responsible for the socialization of his son in society. It is the dad who will not let the little boy be spoiled and "pampered". Teaches male laws.
The mother brings up solicitude, kindness and affection in the boy. The father instills strength of mind, courage, perseverance.
Dad is the second parent. He can help the child to separate from the mother at a certain period. Usually, a man's support is required when the baby begins to attend kindergarten and at the stage of the crisis is 3 years old.
During the period of getting used to the garden, the father can drive to the preschool. It is easier for a child to let go of a dad than a mother. Women are more compassionate, it is more difficult for them to part with a baby. They are very worried, succumb to childish provocations and manipulations. Make mistakes that further exacerbate the addictive phase.
At 3 years old, the child is going through a period of crisis. He becomes capricious, stubborn, disobedient. Often mothers begin to indulge the baby, do for him, thinking that by doing so they are helping. Fathers, on the other hand, behave differently: they are more restrained, stricter, do not lead to provocations, giving the child more freedom and independence.
The role of the father is irreplaceable in communication with the daughter ...
Participates in the development of a girl as a woman. Closely communicating with the baby, showing care and taking care of her, dad shows how dear his daughter is to him, that he loves her. Thus, it forms a positive self-esteem in the girl. With compliments, approval and praise, he increases her confidence in her own attractiveness, femininity, charm. The father is the first man from whom his daughter is recognized as a worthy representative of the women's community.
Teaches relationships with the opposite sex. The father-mother relationship serves as a good example of how a man should treat a woman. Using the example of dad, the baby unconsciously learns to understand the nature of the opposite sex.
Aloofness in the relationship between father and daughter threatens that, as a girl, it will be difficult for her to contact the opposite sex. Lack of experience forms the wrong, distorted view of men. Problems in communication with the stronger sex lead to low self-esteem and complexes.
Family harmony
The participation of the father in the upbringing of the child is of great importance for the development of harmonious relationships in a couple. Let me explain why?
- The psychological stress is reduced. The busyness of the baby with the father frees up time for the woman for herself. She has the opportunity to relax or do what she loves: hobbies, hobbies, self-development. Fatigue goes away. A rested woman is a happy mother and a grateful wife.
- Cohesion. Father and mother, who actively communicate with the child, spend a lot of time together. In such families, a close bond is formed between its members. These are the strongest cells of society. There is mutual understanding and support. A worthy role model.
- Moral support and understanding. The first meaningful word “maternity leave” is missing in men's perception of maternity leave. The spouse naively believes that since the wife has been at home for 3 years, she does not work. Only the husband who participates in the upbringing of the child on an equal basis with the spouse understands that being a parent is a round-the-clock job without days off and holidays.
- No jealousy. When dad spends a lot of time with the baby, they form a strong relationship. The father perceives the child differently: not as a competitor for women's attention, but as an ally, a part of himself. There is no jealousy, no reproaches, resentment and claims to his wife from a man.
- There is someone to look after the baby. There are times when mom needs to leave home: to the clinic, to the store or to the hairdresser. In a family where dad is in close contact with the baby, it is not a problem for a woman to leave a small child for a couple of hours. The husband will not refuse to sit with the little one, because he knows what to do with him. And Mother is calm. She is sure that you can always rely on dad. Trust in her husband, gratitude for help and pride in her husband increases. Male self-esteem and return on the part of a man are growing.
In a woman's piggy bank
How to attract a man to communicate with a baby:
- Encourage your spouse to help with childcare.
- Walk with your family more often. Even to the store. Try to spend your free time together.
- Always place the baby next to the resting dad. Let them get used to rest with each other.
- Cunning! Like, I didn't get enough sleep, I was tired. Ask to look after the baby, play with him. "
- Use every opportunity to attract your father to communicate with the baby.
- Be sure to praise and thank your loved one for their help.
The question arises: when to start involving "dad" in communication with the child?
- Then when you saw two strips on the pregnancy test. Yes, this is exactly the time when it is time for the father to take part in the development of the baby.
Raise a "Dad" in a man and you will always have a worthy helper at hand.
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