Parenting can be enjoyable and easy. How to avoid contrived difficulties or when laziness is a blessing?
Still only dreaming of a child, most of us imagine how it will be day and night to come up with educational games from the first day of a baby's life, always prepare surprisingly healthy dishes and decorate them in the form of works of art, and much more. But real parenting, plus household chores, work, is exhausting so that you want to pretend to be dead on Saturday morning in order to sleep an extra couple of minutes or shove children to grandmothers with poorly hidden joy on their face. Everyone has days when the TV is the best nanny, and sausages and pasta with ketchup are the best lunch (and what, ketchup is not considered a vegetable?). It is important to acknowledge the fact that we are real people, we get tired, and sometimes we are lazy, and this is normal! Plus, all of this can be used for good.
Separating the wheat from the chaff or hammering in on what can really be hammered into
There are moments in the upbringing of children from which you can never retreat. And there is a whole heap of tips, rules, norms that are hung on us by overly anxious girlfriends, overly caring grandmothers or fashion magazines for rich housewives. This information needs to be assessed soberly, deciding how much to do all this. For example, constant ironing of linen from both sides and disinfection of everything with which the baby comes into contact. Or compliance with the timing of the introduction of complementary foods, the rules of joint sleep or the need to express, fashionable cereals with goat milk or someone else's opinion about your parenting abilities. Exhale! Let go of the situation for a minute and drop that which is "too". You will see that nothing happened, on the contrary, the child became more independent, even a little happier 🙂
Freedom to parrot or let your child do what he is able to do himself
Yes, we are fully responsible for our children. Yes, they are so vulnerable to the outside world. But they grow, learn, the more and sooner we allow to do things accessible to them, the sooner they will learn to live safely and independently. And also a little independence is very useful for their development. Allow your baby to put away his toys, wash toy dishes, buy a baby doll in the bathroom or give food to a hamster, you can ask him to bring you something from the room, throw out the diaper after sleep, help set the table, try to put on socks on his own, put the book you read in place ... As a rule, small children do this all children with great pleasure, especially if your request sounds gentle and calm, and not like an order from Sergeant Hartman. By the way, many methods of progressive developmental education are based on this.
Important! If you decide to redo something behind the child, do it so that he does not see. Don't hurt his gentle nature.
Helpful! For especially curious friends and family, say that this is an ultra-fashionable ala-Montessori technique so that you are not reproached for exploiting child labor or for your laziness.
Friendship is different, or allow your child to interact with other children in playgrounds
Scientists have shown that even if a baby cannot speak, he interacts well with other children. Such a joint game or parallel (when everyone plays his own, but next to) is very useful for development. There is an observation of each other, socialization, plus the kids develop their imagination, coming up with games for one, sometimes playing with an imaginary partner. Even if children are involved in a conflict (share toys, territory, swings), it is worth intervening only when your help is definitely needed or your child does not understand how to solve the problem.
Take your time to give your offspring new knowledge every second, you will have time to repeat the colors, properties of objects for the hundredth time, and now be lazy, sit for 5 minutes on a bench, drink coffee from a paper cup and eat a tweek ...
Progress for good or buy something that makes your life easier (and don't be ashamed of it!)
If someone came up with something to make our life easier, do not give up these benefits of civilization. You should not heroically wash the diapers with your hands, laundry soap, because my mother did that. The washing machine, disposable diapers and wet wipes are created for you and me. And my mother did not use them only because then they had not yet been invented.
Do not have time to cook - the multicooker will help you! Tired of fighting with a child, forcing them to wear orthopedic boots with laces, sometimes wear rubber crocs or comfortable slippers with Velcro. Don't worry, there are very few adults among adults who don't know how to tie shoelaces, and your treasure will learn.
Don't have the strength to bend over and run after the baby who just learned to walk? A leash for parents will allow you to keep your child close and will not prevent him from being independent. Tired of walking with a nimble baby - buy him a tolokar, let him develop leg muscles and coordination. Tired of carrying the child in his arms, but he no longer wants to be in a stroller - buy a kangaroo, he will save your hands.
In general, everything has already been invented and done before us, now there is a convenient solution for almost everything. - take it and use it! And shame is inappropriate here. It is at least unreasonable not to take advantage of the benefits of civilization, otherwise, why is progress needed?
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