anonymously, about a girl, 1 year old
Natalia, hello. I really hope for your advice. My daughter is 5 years old. She is afraid to fall asleep alone in the crib: before, she always thought about the ghosts that might come. My husband and I reassured her and said that ghosts did not exist, that we were around and everything would be fine. Now my daughter says that she is no longer afraid of ghosts, but is afraid of the "evil uncles" whom she apparently saw once on TV. Moreover, she talks about them every day before going to bed, for a month already. Calming conversations about the fact that "evil uncles" cannot come to us does not help. I don't know, maybe she is really afraid, or maybe she just doesn't want to fall asleep alone, so she comes up with this so that we can lie down with her (although most often we still leave her to fall asleep alone, because we are afraid that we will always teach to fall asleep together ). Are there any fairy tales or words that will help her calm down and remove this fear?
Hello. There are children who, at 5 and 6 years old, periodically like to get into their parents' bed, especially often in the middle of the night. The fact is that, starting from infancy, they want their mother to be near, so calmer and more comfortable, later, when they grow up, this habit disappears by itself.
If the daughter refuses to sleep in her bed, you need to find out the reason why. Sometimes children are attracted to themselves in this way or they have increased anxiety caused by fears. And one girl constantly came to bed with her parents, because she did not want to see their quarrels. But if she has fear, she needs to get rid of it.
Try to rearrange the room, give a beautiful night light, come up with a fairy tale about it, for example "Magic Lantern", or pick up a beautiful bedding set with your favorite characters, it can be a magic bedspread and a talisman for fear.
To overcome fear, you need to collect all the information about it. Talk to your daughter and find out in detail what or whom is she afraid of?
Read the fairy tales by RM Tkach "Fairy tale therapy of children's problems" "Useful fear" "Magic lantern". OV Khukhlaeva, OE Khukhlaeva “The Labyrinth of the Soul. Therapeutic Tales ". Nightmares. "Bold Ear", "Bear Cub and Baba Yaga", "Baby Elephant Who Was Afraid of the Dark".
The book of the Lithuanian artist and writer Lina Zhutaute "Tosya-Bosya and the Darkness" for 3-6 years. The character is a brave girl who is afraid of the dark. But one day she finds courage and decides to get rid of this fear (for children 3-6 years old).
For more information, see my article on getting rid of fear through fairy tale therapy.
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Psychology and Psychiatry, anonymously (about a girl, 1 year old), April 11, 2017
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Psychology and Psychiatry, anonymous (about boy, 1 year old), 11 April 2017
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