anonymously, about a girl, 1 year old
Hello! I have two daughters 14 years apart. With the birth of a younger child, it is not possible to devote enough time to an older one. I feel the eldest daughter's jealousy towards my sister. Do you need your help how to correct this problem so that none of the children feel left out? How can I explain the situation to them?
Hello. Childhood jealousy in a child is often caused by the fear of losing parental love. Therefore, older children can sometimes openly demonstrate a negative attitude towards the baby. It is important for you to choose the right behavior strategy so that your daughter does not feel lonely. Talk to her, pay attention to her interests, hobbies.
FROMOlder children are most often jealous of younger ones when they feel superfluous. In addition, children with a large age difference do not have common interests. Moreover, any requests from the mother for help with the little one are often perceived as a burden. In the future, they will compete for the attention of their parents and compete in achievements.
Chances are high that children with this age gap will never be particularly close. To prevent this from happening, it is very important to constantly emphasize that the older child is very important, needed and loved.
It will be great if it turns out to gently "include" the eldest daughter in caring for the youngest child and constantly to focus on the fact that he is already quite big and does very important and necessary work, helps dad and mom.
At the same time, it is important that with the advent of a new family member, the first-born, like the “big one,” has not only new responsibilities, but also new rights. Think about what from “no, you’re still small” can be transferred to the category “you are already big, so now you can” - this will affect the self-perception of the older one and allow her not to regress into infancy, which often happens with older children after birth. into the light of the younger.
You can try playing Guess What Changed together or drawing with the whole family together. Here, of course, you need to learn more about the difference in age, and how children show their jealousy, because often this is only the experience and guilt of the parents themselves. All the best!
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