Pranks and mischief are sometimes peculiar to children. But if for some such behavior is a rarity, then there are children who, rather, rarely behave well and very often indulge, which brings a lot of anxiety to parents, who are often themselves provocateurs of child disobedience. Here are 7 major causes of bad child behavior.
1. Unfulfilled the promised punishment
Any parent is familiar with this situation: the child is playing around a lot. To stop mischief, punishment is applied, for example, in the form of a ban on watching TV or walking. However, after a while, anger is replaced by mercy, and the promised punishment is successfully forgotten.
In the future, such parenting behavior will lead to the fact that the child will completely ignore the requests of the parents, because the punishments are still not enforced.
2. Bullying
One of the most undesirable and ineffective methods of punishment. Studies have shown that children who were threatened with something for lying were significantly more likely to lie.
3. Scream
Raising the voice will not make the words clearer, and the child will not immediately begin to fulfill the voiced requests. On the contrary, the relationship can be significantly impaired.
4 corporal punishment
Children's psyche is very sensitive. Beating, as a means of punishment, strongly "deforms" it, which provokes the appearance of the following manifestations on the part of the child:
- increased irritability;
- isolation;
- aggression.
Self-esteem also suffers and trust in people is lost. The child is more likely to look for ways to avoid pain than to correct bad behavior.
5. Inconsistency
Consider an example: a child was forbidden to eat sweets or watch cartoons until the end of the day until he slept. However, when a child's tantrum flares up (how to deal with a child's tantrum: advice from a psychologist), sweets and cartoons are used by parents as a means of calming. In other words, the forbidden becomes available. As a result, the child begins to realize that hysteria is a great way to get what he wants. Parents for the child become the subject of manipulation.
6. Constant excuses
Do not expect consistent good behavior from children. Periodic self-indulgence on their part is normal. Especially when it comes to an early age, when babies do not yet tend to control their emotions and give them definitions. Also, high school students, who can be quite stubborn, are no exception. However, if phrases are constantly pronounced from the lips of parents: “He is very tired”, “She just wants to eat” and the like, then this is a clear sign of the constant justification of his child. This is something worth considering.
7. Affection for bad child behavior
Swaying on a chair in a cafe, running around the store, eating food with your hands followed by licking your fingers and other manifestations of ill-mannered childish behavior may seem “nice enough” to parents and cause them only a smile on their face, a desire to admire. However, among the people around who are nearby at such moments, such behavior is unlikely to cause tenderness. To avoid such “ugly habits”, parents need to tell their child about the rules of behavior.
Of course, age plays a big role. It is impossible or difficult for very young children to understand what is good and bad behavior. However, they all feel and absorb on a subconscious level. For this reason, it is advisable from infancy to teach children to understand and listen to their parents, than to retrain them at a later age.
