Why is the idea of men about wives in the decree not always true? For a man, a wife on maternity leave is like on vacation. A spouse who does nothing, who has plenty of time, suddenly becomes irritable, unkempt, often refuses to caress, citing fatigue - what is the reason for such changes? What husbands need to know about the delights of maternity leave and how to help a spouse avoid depression?
Men, mistakenly believing that maternity leave resembles a vacation, often expect too much from their other half. In their opinion, a wife should always be blooming, joyful, smiling and trouble-free, because she does nothing all day. The expectations of the stronger sex can be understood - they are busy making money, which they completely spend on the family, sometimes denying themselves a lot.
Not getting what they want in return, husbands are disappointed, thinking that they are no longer loved and appreciated. The continuation is known - a breakdown in relationships, a search for a mistress, a divorce. To avoid such problems, it is important for men to understand how difficult it is to take care of a child on maternity leave.
Lack of visible results
Being on maternity leave, a woman does a lot of things in a day, but at the same time she does not see the results of her own activities. For comparison - at the workplace, every action has a logical conclusion, for example, a deal is concluded, a report is made, a car is repaired. Ultimately, the person doing this work receives a monetary reward for it.
In the decree, everything is different - washed dishes immediately appear in the sink again, cooked food disappears almost instantly. And at times, the mother can not at all bring the work begun to the end, because the small child is constantly making adjustments to her plans. A typical situation - a woman started ironing the laundry, but the baby woke up, which means that ironing is postponed, because the child needs to be fed. If the baby is capricious, mom should calm him down, play with him, change the diaper. Then it was time to get ready for a walk, now again no time for ironing.
The constant lack of results brings women on maternity leave to depression. This condition is associated with a lack of the hormone dopamine, which is produced when a person gets satisfaction from the work performed.
Lack of gratitude
The daily routine, accompanied by a lack of gratitude, deprives women on maternity leave of joy and motivation. If family members - husband and children, do not say a simple "thank you", the keepers of the hearth have nowhere to draw strength to carry out numerous chores around the house. The realization that you are doing the right job, that your efforts are appreciated by your family, inspires women. So that the wife and mother do not suffer from depression, she needs to be thanked for the care shown - for the cleanliness of the house and for a delicious dinner.
Work from dawn to dusk
A woman's working day on maternity leave begins long before the household wakes up, because she needs to feed her husband before leaving, cook fresh porridge for the baby. In the evening, when the children are asleep, she cannot afford to rest until she cleans up the rooms and does the dishes. During the day, mothers also have almost no time to calmly drink tea or lie down. Do not forget that often a small child wakes up at night to eat or drink. Round-the-clock work is an unbearable burden, which is on women's shoulders. It is important to understand how difficult it is for a wife and appreciate her efforts.
Monotonous environment and lack of communication
When a child appears in the family, communication between a woman and her friends is almost reduced to zero. The newly-made mother also loses contact with the work collective, and her entire environment is her baby and her husband. Perhaps the spouse thinks that it is enough for the other half to talk to other mothers on the playground or in the clinic. However, this communication cannot be called full and inspiring, because in the conversations of unfamiliar women, only the topics of everyday life and raising children are touched upon. The same environment and the lack of time to meet with friends are depressing for women.
Understanding the problems a wife faces on maternity leave will help maintain good relationships with each other and avoid family breakdown.
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