How to raise responsibility in a child

Every loving parent realizes the importance of fostering a sense of responsibility in their child. It is clear that kids, accustomed to being completely dependent on mom and dad, cannot understand what it means to be responsible and independent. But, as the child grows up, such a skill is simply necessary, because it is the foundation of a normal adult life in society.

How to instill in a child independence and responsibility for his actions, words, his own life, we will analyze below.

The essence of responsibility

From the very beginning, the very concept of responsibility should be explained to the child. Be sure to become an example for the baby, because any words without specific actions have no meaning.

Even very young children can be taught to be responsible. Determine for yourself the types of this quality.

Health and lifestyle. Responsibility extends to the awareness of what is good and what is harmful to one's own health, how to act in order not to harm the body and not get sick. Even the youngest members of society are able to understand that taking off their hat in the cold can catch a cold, jump from a height, hit, etc. Make it clear to your child that sports, proper daily routine, and eating behavior also affect their health. Remember to eat healthy yourself and display a positive image.
Respectful and caring attitude towards people and animals. The kid should understand when he interferes with others and hurts someone, unpleasantly. Explain to the child his social status and how he should behave in relation to his elders. Remember that even a baby has his own "I", so do not infringe on his rights and do not suppress desires. Everything should be in moderation.
The value of things. It is important to instill in the child a respectful attitude towards things, household items, both their own and those of others. The kid will eventually understand that any thing does not get just like that, that behind each toy there is the work of mom and dad.
Words and deeds. The most difficult category of responsibility in terms of mastering by a child. But just as reachable as everyone else. Keeping promises, not blaming someone else, being able to defend an opinion - all this you must help your child understand.

Together

Involve your child in household chores. Let him be involved as much as possible in cleaning, washing, fixing. Not only will the baby thereby feel his importance and associate himself with adults, but it will also bring him great pleasure. It's no secret that household chores attract a child more than toys and cartoons. The main thing is the parental approach. Household chores will allow your child to feel proud of themselves, empathize, understand the criteria for well-being and, of course, cultivate responsibility.

It is clear that your daily activities with this approach will take much longer, because the baby will not cope with the work in the same time as you, and the quality of performance can expect better. Your task is to praise the baby, patiently show how and what to do, not worry about spilled water or a broken plate. Everything will come with experience. It is very important that the child also sees his father's role in household chores, and participates in his work. It is not difficult to give the child a screwdriver and let the screw turn, but how many emotions and useful skills this will give the child.

Skills

Develop life skills in your child, independent everyday actions. Even a two-year-old baby can remove a plate from the table, or collect scattered toys. Do not overload the child with overwhelming tasks, or so many of them that will take up all his free time. This will cause rejection in the baby and an unwillingness to show responsibility.

Designate areas for the child where he will be responsible for cleanliness and order. Let, for example, keep order in the children's corner, monitor the availability of napkins in the kitchen, feed the pets.

There is a choice

The sense of responsibility is inextricably linked with the possibility of choice and understanding what exactly you need, what you need for comfort. Free up space for your baby to make their own decisions. Let him choose what to wear, what to play, whether or not to eat dinner, etc.

Of course, you need to gently guide the baby to the right choice, the appropriate weather, place, time, etc. Do not press, be correct. "What kind of T-shirt do you want to wear, this one just green or this beautiful one with a funny bunny?" This applies if the child is still small, at a more conscious age, the child will understand any falsehood.

The preschooler has the right to decide for himself what will stand in his room, what he takes with him for a walk and kindergarten, what gift he will give a friend for his birthday.

Do not interfere and encourage the child's independence in every possible way.

Dignity and confidence

Psychologists around the world argue that responsibility is highly dependent on self-esteem. Indeed, if a person is confident in himself, his abilities and capabilities, believes that he can cope with a difficult situation, and sees the results of his own actions, he subconsciously grows in his own eyes and tries to do even more and even better, to take on more responsibility and not fear failure and censure. In this, both adults and children are the same.

Of course, this does not mean that you endlessly have to praise the child, but you will learn to react wisely to mistakes. Thank the kid, and only then say that it would have turned out even better if he had been more attentive, had not done something, etc.

Condemnation and meeting expectations

Any child is very sensitive to parental judgment. He tries to meet expectations. If you constantly say to the kid: “Confused, forgot my gloves again”, “Lazy, you don’t do anything”, “You cannot do anything, I’m better myself,” you thereby program him to develop negative qualities.

Calmly talk about the child's mistake, work out a plan of joint actions to eradicate a bad habit, forgetfulness. For example, come up with a funny ritual of checking whether you took everything before leaving the house, or in a playful way as a superhero go looking for a loss. Help your child overcome himself.

Do not specify

Believe me, if almost army decrees of what to do, replace with a proposal or a question, the child will see in a different light even those actions that he does not like to perform. Compare: "Eat and sleep fast!", "Put away the toys, I said!" and “Let's have a quick meal and will go to bed under an interesting fairy tale”, “Dear, you couldn't put away the toys, otherwise we might step on and break them”. The child feels that his opinion is important for adults, and strive to show by his behavior that he is ready to communicate on equal terms.

Effects

Let your child be aware of the consequences of their actions. Let him come to the idea of what is good and what is not worth doing. Explain what trust is and what will happen if a person loses it. The child must understand that responsibility for words is also necessary. Tell your child that he has the power to change something, and inaction can lead to problems in many cases.

Don't give up

Do not take responsibility if your child is guilty. Even harmless phrases to dad, “It was the kitty who ran and broke the plate, not Mishenka,” can lead to the child's understanding of how to shift responsibility and avoid censure and punishment.

Even if your baby stubbornly does not want to become independent, do not give up and patiently wait for the results. Do not give up.

Raising a responsible person is not easy, but you, as loving parents, must understand the importance of this quality.

Notice and praise your child's achievements, even his small victories could be worth a lot of the child's efforts. The presented applique, the bitten candy left for you personally, is a signal to you that the baby loves you and is ready to sacrifice and share something. Consult with the child, correct his actions and help in every possible way, make his life not boring, not made up of the same tasks and deeds.

The results of your diligence and patience will not take long. Emotional support, pride in achievements, sincere interest in the baby and his success - this is what is most important for the personal growth and harmonious development of your child.