Mom in our life is the dearest and closest person, especially for a girl, a mother should also become a mentor and best friend. And for this, the mother herself needs to know how to behave with her daughter so that the baby becomes a real woman in the future. We invite mothers to familiarize themselves with 8 main rules that will help in communicating with their daughter.
Rule # 1. Play with your daughter!
No time? This is just an excuse! For your own child, it should always be. In addition, you have an amazing opportunity to remember your childhood and play long-forgotten games: daughters - mothers, roll dolls in a stroller, swaddle dolls "classics", cook sand pods or a salad of plastic vegetables. Or maybe jump through the rubber band. It has long been a known fact: joint games bring people very close. Even many team building programs (team building) are built by psychologists on the basis of games. If we talk about emotional closeness, which necessarily arises during the game, then it is a good basis for harmonious relationships.
Rule # 2. Education comes first!
Spoiled children are unpleasant for those around them, but for parents it is just a disaster. That is why if you, as a mother, do not want to see your daughter selfish, who does not have real friends (who wants to be friends with such a friend!), Do not want her to be a participant in any unpleasant troubles, you have no choice but to be strict in education. What does it mean to be strict? Everything is quite simple: stop tantrums, do not allow yourself to be manipulated, be sure to tell what is good and what is bad. However, this is not all. An important point is vigilant observation of grandparents, who quite often do not know when to stop. How is this expressed? In a large number of gifts, in permissiveness, the fulfillment of any whims of granddaughters. It is the grandmothers who carry their granddaughters in their arms and spoon-feed all the way to the institute. Therefore, do not forget that the benefits of this will have to be reaped, first of all, by the parents.
Rule number 3. Do not transfer your life experience to your daughter
Children are like their parents, but they grow up at a different time, in different conditions. It must also be remembered that they are already personalities from the cradle, and they are completely unique. That is why you should not endlessly remember your life experience, of course, except for those situations that can save your daughter from danger. If you didn't want to go to kindergarten and threw tantrums about this in the morning, then your daughter may be happy to attend kindergarten. And this will not be a daily problem. If at a transitional age you "burned" on unrequited love and hard to get out of the state of depression, this does not mean that your girl will repeat this bitter situation. Therefore, think carefully before forbidding a girl to skate, because you broke your leg just like that in childhood, or to refuse her requests to go to a music school, because “but my parents gave me away, so now I cannot see the violin ". So, think a few times before you forbid anything to the little one just because your experience was not very successful.
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Rule number 4. Trust - yes, deception - no!
It's great if the daughter can tell her mother almost everything. This is an ideal mother who will not lecture, swear and shout when the awareness of guilt has already come to her daughter. Will not sarcast, criticize and ridicule your feelings and thoughts. Such a mother will not condescend to argue about the girl's feelings, ridicule them and call them "childish", which will soon pass, she will not tell her daughter's secrets to anyone, even to her grandmother or best friend, because this is their secret! She will take your feelings seriously and give good advice if you ask her. Why hide something from such a mother? This is an ideal picture of the relationship, but it often happens that mistrust and lies become an insurmountable obstacle in the relationship between children and parents. Avoid this!
Rule number 5. Teach your daughter to help around the house
It's great when a woman is a real homemaker. She cooks with pleasure, there is always order and comfort in the house. This should be taught to a daughter from an early age. There is no dispute, it is faster and easier to do everything by yourself, and take your daughter with cartoons or offer some other interesting activity, just not to spin under your feet. However, let's look into the future: will your daughter's husband be grateful that she does not know how to do anything around the house or does it somehow? Therefore, it is better to teach your daughter to help around the house. Between the ages of 2 and 3, children want to help and imitate adults in everything, so don't miss this moment.
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Rule # 6. Create the image of the ideal man
You can't argue with the fact that a woman shows all her best feminine qualities thanks to men. The mother's task is to bring up in her daughter the correct idea of what a real man should be. However, the main thing here is not to go too far - the formed image must correspond to reality, otherwise, hitting perfectionism, you risk raising a princess who will wait for a prince on a white horse all her life. If she has authority among the male half of relatives (most often it is dad, grandfather or older brother), then you should avoid criticizing this person in the presence of your daughter, not speak negatively about him. Phrases like: "Don't repeat my mistakes, don't mess with someone like your father!" can cause severe psychological trauma to your daughter.
Rule # 7. Don't mix roles
There are mothers who try so hard to become a friend for their daughter that they start doing stupid things. They either fall into deep childhood, or the little daughter is "pulled" into the adult circle, for example, taken to adult parties. Another minus in the mother's behavior is the requirement from her daughter to fully report on her life. Nothing good will come of it. Give your daughter the opportunity to have her secrets and share them with her friends, her hobbies, free time at last. Remember that the role of a mother to her daughter is special: a mother is a friend, counselor, teacher, and mentor. Do not give up these roles.
Rule number 8. Emotional contact is essential!
Even boys need parental love, care and support. What can we say about girls! Be gentle with your daughter, hug and kiss more, smile at each other, lie together in bed - such moments will tell about your love better than any words.
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