Each mother is a priori the most dear and beloved for a child, but some of them are incredibly difficult. So which mother does the child have a hard time with? Let's hope you won't find yourself on this list. Well, if this happens, then at least you will know what needs to be fixed.
1. Anxious mom
She always sees trouble everywhere. She rolls her baby in a stroller up to three or four years old, forbids him to jump and run, constantly holds his hand, stands as a guard near children's stairs and slides. If someone else's baby, "armed" with a stick or a ball, gets into her field of vision, she hastily takes her child away from the "threat".
As for the home environment, the floor of such a mother is covered with carpets or mattresses, all corners and pasted over with foam rubber or special nozzles. The baby is always wearing socks or slippers, and the windows are closed so as not to miss even the slightest draft. Alcohol sprays, antibacterial wipes and a first aid kit are always close at hand.
A teenage child with such a mommy shouldn't even dream of personal freedom. Just try to come home with a delay of at least 5 minutes or not call, as she starts to drip valerian into a glass. Alas, children grow up too quickly, so the treasure of an anxious mother still has to face the realities of our world. As practice shows, breaking knees and arms is painful, jumping from a hill is quite dangerous, the street can be crossed exclusively on a green light and only along a pedestrian crossing. Agree, it is much safer to expand the freedom of the baby from an earlier age. For example, you can start from the moment the child gets to his feet.
2. "Iron" mother
Such a mother could even manage a regiment without any problems. Her voice is always firm and decisive. Those who dare to disobey the order will face punishment, and it is not always limited to a reprimand. Living with this mother under the same roof can be compared to a strict regime colony, where any wrong step is certainly punished. A child, living in such conditions, does everything possible so as not to provoke the parent to the next reading of notations, swearing or slapping on the head.
It is in vain to wait for pity and empathy or kisses from a tough mother (as well as tender hugs). The child will have to hide from her many details of his life as he grows up, while often lying. But the "iron" mother is an authority not only for her children, but also for her husband. There is always a harsh discipline in her family, and the kids shine with impeccable behavior.
3. The illogical mom
With such a mother, the child does not know about boredom. She has all 7 Fridays in the week. Today she strictly prohibits, and tomorrow she gives the go-ahead for the same without any problems. At one point, she decided to seriously take up the education of the child, punishing him for the offense, and after a couple of minutes she promises him gifts, kisses and hugs him.
Such a mother constantly tries to establish certain rules and frameworks of behavior for children, which she herself violates. She is easy to manipulate. Sooner or later, all the child's whims will be fulfilled. Minor disciplinary violations can go unpunished, since an inconsistent mother can simply forget some of her own prohibitions. It would seem, what could be better for a child? Despite all the visible advantages of an inconsistent mom, it is quite difficult with her, since she does not fulfill promises, and is also completely unpredictable.
4. Mom is an idealist
She must have all the best, and this also applies to children. Kids are always neatly dressed, impeccably brought up and versatile. They achieve success in their studies, win prizes at regional and city Olympiads. Nobody raises their voice. Everyone uses a knife and fork to eat.
If friends sent their child to a section, a music school, to developmental classes or foreign language courses, then an idealistic mother will do the same. At the same time, the ideal child has no right to the slightest mistake. He is also deprived of the rights to noise, recreation and expression. It is necessary to justify mother's expectations, which is sometimes quite difficult to do.
5. Selfish mom
The thoughts of such a mom are entirely devoted to her beloved. Her baby is screaming with boredom, crying with hunger, and she calmly chooses new shoes in the store. The child plays on an asphalt path instead of a specially equipped area, since there are more comfortable shops and high-speed Internet. It is difficult for such a mother to fit the baby into her schedule, so he gets a minimum of the parent's attention. And the most terrible crime of a child is to disrupt mother's plans for the day. And the punishment will not be long in coming, manifesting itself in ignoring, imprisonment in a children's room or arena.
If you fall under one of the above types, do not rush to classify yourself as abnormal. Abnormality will manifest itself if you leave everything as it is, continuing to further "cripple" the child. But the efforts to fix everything are worthy of respect. Agree, it's worth trying, if not for your own good, then for the sake of the future of children for sure!
