3 important truths I realized after my son was born

With the advent of a child, life always changes. From that moment on, everything will no longer be the same as before, and this is what scares many men. So it was with me. Only time goes by - and at a certain moment comes the understanding that everything is as it should be: the past is in the past, and the present has become the present.

With the birth of my son, I had concerns that I did not tell my wife about. And I never told anyone. I was scared for the child, because he is very small and defenseless, you never know what can happen to him. I was also afraid for my spouse - she is fragile, tender, she may not cope and break. I was scared for myself too: I was ashamed to tell, but my first fears were not related to the fact that a good father would not come out of me, but to the fact that I would never return to my usual, so beloved way of life, and the culprit for everything - baby.

So days passed, then weeks, months. Suddenly it became clear to me: I didn't want it to be the same anymore. I just outgrew this situation and these thoughts. The main thing in my life is my son, our family, and this is the best thing that could happen in my life. At this time came the understanding of three simple and important truths that literally turned my worldview upside down.

1. Work is worth working

I'm not talking about work at all. I mean another work. The point is that the more you try to work on your thoughts, analyze mistakes and mistakes, the more you end up gaining. You need to work on yourself, form new good habits, get rid of bad ones - and this will help you achieve your goal faster. The harder you work for the good of the family and in terms of raising the child, the more benefit it brings to everyone. However, there is an important condition: the rule will work if you really love your work and realize what you are making efforts for.

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2. Connections are unnecessary

There are always a lot of people around us, who take a lot of time and effort. We spend time with them, communicate - this does not bring much pleasure, we often disagree with them, but we still spend time with them. So why? This question I asked myself when I had less time for meetings, when I began to see my friends and acquaintances less often. Unnecessary connections ended by themselves.

3. Don't be afraid to depend on someone

Even after the wedding, I desperately resisted the idea that I was dependent on my wife, as she was on me. Loving people always depend on each other, it cannot be otherwise. After the birth of my son, I realized that I also depend on him. Now I can sincerely admit that my life was empty without my wife and child. So I will depend on them all my life. I just want to hope that they will not use it, and I myself will not try to manipulate those who depend on me.