Many people think that chat correspondence saves a lot of time, makes it possible to discuss pressing issues, to make an announcement at any convenient moment. It's hard to find a class, kindergarten group or section where there is no parent chat. Contacts are established daily and nightly, hourly and every minute. But there is something annoying about these chats that soon becomes intrusive and unpleasant.
Using the example of the parent chat of a kindergarten group, let's look at 4 reasons to hate it.
Wasted time
The teacher writes: “For the New Year, girls are snowflakes, boys are gnomes. There are costumes in the kindergarten. Be sure to have white tights. " Everything is clear and clear. And it began. - Can we bring our costume? - No. My boy doesn't have white tights, can I have some cream ones? - No. Can I have white knee-highs instead of tights? - No. - Who came up with these roles? My daughter wants to be a princess! “It’s said, girls are snowflakes.
So how long does it take for a teacher to clarify a clearly stated task? And still, not everyone will come in white tights.
A short and simple instruction, like a snowball, grows over a thousand questions, it is pointless to answer them, since each parent will remain unconvinced. What should a caregiver do? Ignore countless “What?”, “Where?”, “Can I?”, “When?”, “How?”, Or explain the same thing 100 times ...
Almost any information necessarily becomes a reason for a billion questions and clarifications, resulting in thousands of meaningless conversations. These unfortunate snowflakes and gnomes were discussed in our beautiful chat for three (!!!) days.
Inciting panic
The chairman of the parent committee proposes to discuss how we will treat the children at the graduation ceremony. Mandarins? - What do you mean, they are all infected with viruses, cause an allergic reaction, children will have anaphylactic shock. - Maybe chocolates? - In no case. They are all expired, children will be poisoned by them. - Let's all get together in nature, sit on the shore, make kebabs, fry sausages. - Are you out of your mind? The guys get sick, catch a cold, and suddenly someone climbs into the lake! Get burned, lost, bitten by mosquitoes ...
Anything can cause a panic mood: chickenpox in a neighboring group, a broken tap, snow and thaw, cold and heat. After reading the frightening messages of alarm moms, you yourself begin to get infected with anxiety, and this will not lead to anything good.
Spaminess
Messages that do not concern the life of the kindergarten and children endlessly appear in the chat. Congratulations on all imaginable and unimaginable holidays, emoticons, hearts, gifs and other rubbish. All this nonsense distracts attention from important information, prevents you from focusing on it.
Parents need to agree that they do not need to write in the chat everything that is not relevant. But this is unlikely to work, spam cannot be extracted from the daily life of those who have nothing to do.
Aggressive attitude
It's hard to imagine how unfriendly parents are to each other and to other people's children in the chat. - Ivanova again brought her snotty son. Remove him from the kindergarten, he re-infects ours. - So what if there is no temperature and she will not be given a sick leave. Let him turn out as he wants, and with our children so that he is not around. - Who said that we are throwing off 150 rubles for gifts for children? Enough for 100. - And what, you can't get 150? Why then do you go to the garden if you have no money?
Anything that, in their opinion, deviates from the norm, causes a negative reaction from parents. They speak contemptuously about those who wear clothes for older children, or those whom parents pick up late from the garden. Social and material inequality, problems in the family that are brought up for general discussion, speech defects of the child and much more that should not concern outsiders, are actively discussed and condemned.
So are parental chats necessary? It is definitely difficult to answer. Somehow they used to do without them. How do you avoid hating parental chat messages? And who needs the education of culture - children or parents? These questions remain open.
