A woman who has lost an unborn child always wonders why this happened. It should be noted that not always medicine can give clear and convincing answers to it, because many reasons why the fetus stops developing in the mother's womb and dies are unknown to science. In this case, doctors confine themselves to expressing condolences and say that this happens or the reasons have not been established. Specialists in the field of psychosomatic medicine have their own explanation for miscarriages and missed pregnancies. It is about them that we will talk about in this article.
From a medical point of view
The topic of miscarriage is painful and very delicate in itself. But it is impossible not to talk about her, and this is what the Ministry of Health has long understood, and therefore it is recommended that all women whose pregnancy ended in failure be sure to meet with a perinatal psychologist, such specialists today work in antenatal clinics. The thing is that the mechanisms of miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy, frozen pregnancy and premature birth long before the period when the baby is considered viable are very subtle. And they do not always lend themselves to logic and scientific explanations.
A miscarriage is the spontaneous termination of pregnancy before 21 weeks. Then termination of pregnancy will be considered premature birth. A frozen pregnancy is a pathological complication in which the fetus stops developing and dies, but after that it remains in the uterine cavity for some time. Ectopic pregnancy - the localization of the fetus is not in the uterus, but in another place, most often in the fallopian tubes. What do these situations have in common? In all cases, the pregnancy cannot be prolonged, this child has no chance of birth.
In medicine, the causes of miscarriages and missed pregnancies are often called infectious diseases, pathologies of the woman's reproductive system, hereditary predispositions, the influence of negative factors - bad habits, chromosomal abnormalities, an unfavorable environmental situation, stress. Every fifth pregnancy, according to statistics, ends in miscarriage.
Psychosomatic causes
The woman's body must create the most favorable conditions for the development of the fetus, and the fetus must "want" to come into this world. The baby is closely connected with his mother from the first days after conception. After about a week after conception, implantation occurs, it will be connected even more strongly: the baby will receive nutrition and oxygen from the mother's blood. Together with useful substances and vitamins, she may well transfer hormones to her child.
With stress, fear, dislike, anger, irritation, a woman produces stress hormones. On the one hand, they partially block sex hormones, including progesterone, which is important for carrying pregnancy, on the other hand, they adversely affect the development of the baby and his well-being.
It is fear that explains the threat of interruption and habitual miscarriage, because a woman is afraid, having already had negative experience, that this time she will not be able to bear the baby. This usually happens in those who dream of motherhood, but the fear is stronger. A competent psychologist or psychotherapist will help to break the vicious circle, it is advisable to visit whom it is desirable even before a new pregnancy begins. Eliminating fear is an important prerequisite for overcoming habitual miscarriage.
Psychosomatics explains exactly what actions and thoughts of a woman could lead to illness. The main condition is to take full responsibility for herself, that is, a woman must understand that it was she who attracted this or that event into her life and no one is to blame for this.
So, a miscarriage or missed pregnancy can occur in a woman who simply does not want children. It happens and there is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of that a woman at the time of conception was not ready for motherhood. In this case, a miscarriage is very likely. If she deliberately decided to become pregnant, but under pressure from relatives or her husband, who began to shame that she still hadn’t thought about children, and she didn’t develop an internal pregnancy even after two strips on the test, an unfavorable outcome for this pregnancy is quite real ...
A woman can have any number of fears associated with pregnancy: many attitudes are formed in childhood and are deeply "stuck" at the subconscious level. Since childhood, the girl sees in films and reads in books that childbirth is pain, it is dangerous and very scary. In this case, the onset of pregnancy in adulthood can stir up a lot of fears from childhood and recently acquired worries about how she will be able to feed the baby. Miscarriages and frozen pregnancies often occur in women who do not love their partner, subconsciously do not want to give birth to children from him.
The subconscious part of the mind always strives to do what is best for a person. Everything that worries him, what he fears, for the subconscious is a signal for action. If a woman doubts whether she wants to be a mother, if she is not confident in her partner, in her abilities, then the subconscious mind can do everything (at hormonal and other levels) so that the mechanisms of preserving the body are launched, that is, it gets rid of the fetus that caused such emotions and experiences in a pregnant woman. It can be not only fears of childbirth, but also the fear of ruining the figure, becoming unattractive after the birth of a baby, especially if a woman's work and career are related to her appearance (model, actress).
What to do?
Where there is a loss of a child, fear always lives. Deep, hidden in the subconscious, sometimes childish. And you need to start your search precisely from childhood. If it is difficult for yourself to answer honest questions addressed to yourself, then psychologists or a psychotherapist can help with this. Formulated fear, spoken - is always less than hidden.
You need to reconsider your attitudes towards pregnancy, childbirth and children. It is possible that a negative attitude towards just one component and interferes with bearing the child. Particular attention should be paid to her feminine principle, the better a woman will feel a connection with him, stop imitating men, compete with them in anything, the more favorable her hormonal background will be, and the state of the reproductive system will improve.
If the reason lies in irritation and inadequate perception of men as such or of a certain man, then you should put everything in its place in your life, change your attitude towards men to a more positive and benevolent one, and finally meet the one from whom you want to have a child.
