Relationship with your own child is a complex system of parental behavior, trust and respect, love and anxiety for the future of the baby. It is important to be aware of some significant points that are often forgotten in the hustle and bustle and the pursuit of the right upbringing.
- It is important to understand that the child is not a part of you. This is an original personality with its own special and unlike any other inner world. Do not try to mold him into an ideal person. Do not try to get the child to accomplish what you dreamed of and could not achieve. On the contrary, make every effort so that your baby becomes himself and realizes his, and not someone's, desires.
- Accept that the process of life is cyclical. You have been given life, you have given it to another person, he will give it to someone else. Demanding gratitude or, even worse, payment for this is simply pointless. After all, the grass does not pay the earth for the fact that it allows it to grow. The desire to receive payment from the child for giving birth to him, providing shelter and food, upbringing and education is a direct path to misunderstanding and loss of trust in a relationship.
- What you sow, you reap, as the people said. Releasing your fatigue, anger and resentment on a weak child will lead to a similar attitude of the matured man to you. If you do not want to spend old age in quarrels with your own blood, think about it and change your attitude right now.
- Why do you think that your "adult" problems are more important than the problems of the child? A big mistake in upbringing is to look down on the allegedly invented hardships of a child with disdain. It is really more difficult for a child to cope with some seemingly simple tasks due to little life experience. If you do not want a grown-up child to suffer from constant fear of life's difficulties, then your task is to teach him from childhood the correct attitude and solving problem situations.
- To humiliate a child means, with your own, loving maternal or paternal hands, to dig a pit of complexes for him, from which a person most likely will never get out. Did you give birth to a baby to mock him?
- The younger the child, the more attention, care and sensitivity from parents is needed. Without these factors, the full development of a small personality is impossible. Accept that there can be no time more important than spending time with your child.
- It is foolish to suffer because you cannot give any special material benefits to your child. You have every right to reproach yourself only when you can do something, but you do not. Do not be lazy to read a book to your baby, sing a lullaby for the night, draw or play with him from plasticine. This is much more important for a crumb than a fancy smartphone, studying at Harvard or a vacation at Disneyland.
- No matter how difficult it is to raise a child, it is a mistake to consider him your tormentor. A child is a great happiness given by the Lord. You have been given a great opportunity to develop and educate a worthy and talented person.
- There are no other people's children, no matter how hackneyed this popular phrase sounds. Never act with other people's children as you would not want to be treated with yours.
- Love your child simply because he is your child. Whether he is talented, handsome, or healthy is the tenth thing. The most important thing is your blood, your genes, your life. No one can love you stronger than him.
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