The childhood of each of us is inextricably linked with fairy tales. Perhaps, at the thought of fairy tales, an image of that very beloved book appears in your head, the appearance of which in your mother's hands you have been so impatiently awaiting. Since ancient times, people have passed on their life experiences through fairy tales, and until now we are trying to instill the best qualities in children using magical stories. Each parent is responsible for choosing a fairy tale. After all, the baby should be lured by the story, and in no case should it be scared.
However, kids do not always understand the moral of a fairy tale, they are more often interested in the storyline, magic and adventure. In this case, personalized fairy tales come to the rescue. What is it, and why are they needed, we will figure it out further.
Differences from ordinary fairy tales
A personalized fairy tale differs from a usual one in that the story is about a specific child. The kid immediately recognizes himself in a fairy tale, because the main character has the same qualities, he lives in the same house with his mom, dad, sister and a cat. Friends of the baby and his relatives participate in the fairy tale. In such tales, the real name of the child and his relatives can be used, or maybe a fictional one, but with all the qualities and situations that characterize the life of the child.
Personalized stories will replace the lengthy teachings that kids are trying to avoid. The kid likes to feel like a hero, protector and winner. He always knows that everything will be fine, a way will be found, and he will remain at his best.
Such tales, invented by the famous psychologist Shalva Amonashvili, appeared back in 1982. Even then, the scientist proved that with the help of fairy tales it is possible to correct the development, perception of the child, to participate in the formation of his personality. And what, no matter how much, conscientious parents strive for.
When to read?
If we consider the most appropriate age for personalized fairy tales, this is the time when your child realizes himself, his actions, their consequences, understands the difference between "good" and "bad", "good" and "evil". For each baby, this moment comes at a different time, so you yourself will determine when your baby will be able to correctly perceive magical stories with his own participation.
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Characters are chosen depending on age. So, for a kid under 3 years old, apart from himself, toys, cartoon characters, animals can become heroes of stories. Older children about 5 years old will listen with interest about fairies, wizards, princes, princesses, heroes. At primary school age, fairy tales can already be everyday, in the form of a parable, magic stories will also remain popular.
It is preferable to choose the time for reading before bed, when the child can focus on the story, and then draw his own conclusions. Depending on the child's temperament, you can slightly shift the reading time if the child reacts very violently to fairy tales.
Therapy and psychocorrection
Personalized fairy tales can be used as a correction of the child's behavior, to overcome his fears and phobias. Instead of long educational speeches, the kid can listen to a fairy tale in which a hero, very similar to himself, is faced with the same problematic situation and comes out of it with honor. You can tell a capricious kid about what the whims of a child from a fairy tale led to, and how good everyone felt when he corrected himself. Make a shy and reserved child a hero, a knight, let him conquer evil, realize strength and courage. A fairy tale can help a kid find a way out of situations in which he himself cannot understand reality.
Of course, the ending of a fairy tale must always be good, do not leave the fairytale hero alone, with losses, without friends.
There are also fairy tales for diagnostics, when a specialist asks a child to compose a fairy tale about himself, on its basis the problematic qualities of the baby, his fears, inclinations are revealed.
We compose a fairy tale
Even if you don't have a talent for writing, coming up with a personalized fairy tale isn't that hard. The main thing is to adhere to a certain "fabulous" plan.
So start with the standard "lived once", describe the character (we discussed above what they can be in accordance with the age of the child), place of residence, character, habits of the main characters. How they met.
What happened. Describe the situation (choose one that worries you and the baby, link it to the character trait that you want to change in the baby).
Effects. Come up with the result of the actions of the hero and his friends. It can be negative, in the case of bad behavior or negative character traits.
How it ended. Describe how the heroes dealt with the problem, the situation. Remember that the characters must find a way out, come to a logical result.
Output. Help the kid understand the moral of the story, gently hint what the hero did wrong, and where he did the right thing.
If you have no imagination or just time to come up with personalized fairy tales, use the offers of sites offering such services. Give preference to stories where people with psychological education make up stories, this will help you use magic stories to the benefit of your baby.
Today there is the possibility of publishing a whole book with personalized fairy tales, where even your child and family members will be in the illustrations. This pleasure is not cheap, but how much joy your baby and you yourself will receive.
But where to buy such tales?
On the site you can order a whole collection of fairy tales about a hero that is close and understandable to every kid, and your baby will play the role of a hero!
If you know how to work in graphic editors, then you can make the book yourself to your liking and in accordance with your requirements. All that remains is to print it.
Who if not you, parents, are responsible for your child, for how he perceives this world, how he will be in it. Use every opportunity to help your kid with this, especially if you can read and listen to your favorite fairy tales with pleasure.
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