Every person, for sure, has something, without which life in the new year will be much better. If so, then the problems simply need to be left in the outgoing year. One of our readers expressed her point of view on this matter. In 2018, journalist and teacher Katerina Bezruchenko had a happy event - she gave birth to a wonderful daughter. We invited Katerina, as a young mother, to tell what she would like to leave in 2018, without which she would be very comfortable in 2019.
It's the end of December. My acquaintances and friends sum up the results of the ending year, make plans for the future and share their thoughts on this matter on social networks. I thought: why am I worse? Nothing! But I'll start with the fact that it is not yet fully completed in 2018.
Here's what I will try not to do starting January 1, 2019.
1. Constantly engage in self-education
In May, I started participating in various webinars, watching videos, listening to thematic lectures on writing, SMM, personal brand, and more ... First, I decided to upgrade my Instagram. But one has only to plunge into it, as then you are bombed with an endless stream: "Learn more, take this course, watch this video, because everything is just beginning!"
In the end, I realized: this is overkill, because I just choke on self-education. Enough!
2. Strive for complete excellence
Is it possible to be perfect in everything? Of course not! That's why I say to myself: “Stop! Stop being in constant stress due to the fact that you need to change something in yourself. Stop looking and find a lot of shortcomings and imperfections, because in the whole world you will not find an exceptionally ideal person. " Personal growth is undoubtedly necessary, but everything is good in moderation.
I'm tired. I’m tired of considering myself inferior, tired that I definitely need to “twist” something somewhere in order to be perfect.
That is why I am finishing the first two points today and immediately and, of course, I will leave them in the outgoing year. In the New I will be fine without them.
3. Shame? Shyness? Enough!
I firmly decided for myself: it is enough to be ashamed and ashamed for the slightest reason and without it. No, I didn't formulate it very accurately. It would be more correct: I'm not looking for a reason for shame. Quite right: there are no reasons for shame at all! Social media is to blame for everything. How can you not feel ashamed of your shape, rounded after childbirth, when there are thin mothers around with 3 - 4 children? Or maybe the photographer just took good pictures?
And I will never stop enjoying the bed, silence and tranquility, especially in an embrace with my daughter. Real bliss that you can only dream of!
For some reason, many people think that in order not to be considered a loser, you just need to constantly be in good shape and do something, run somewhere. I stop believing it. I decided: I will do what I want, and at a pace that suits me. But it also happens that you don't want to do anything, but just lie in bed all day. So what's stopping me from doing this? And let everyone be jealous!
4. No goals that do not meet my “I”!
There is no doubt that it is necessary to set goals. I love it and do it without fail. But I simply cannot set global goals, and I don’t want to. Conquering the world is not part of my plans. I think that you need to start moving towards your dream slowly but surely, and only then take acceleration. So what if the dream is small and possibly selfish? She's mine!
I prefer to eat the elephant in parts and start with small steps towards the dream, and only then accelerate.
And let this dream be small and selfish, renew the eyebrow tattoo, for example, and save the world indirectly - with our beauty.
5. No doubt!
“Am I good at writing articles?”, “No one is interested in my blog!”, “Is it interesting to anyone?” - such and similar thoughts are familiar to many. And they even push some to be too frank in their statements, to too candid photos with peach presets, to buy likes and subscribers on social networks. Such people are ready for a lot in order to be considered cool.
And why? The whole point is in self-doubt, in constant doubts that torment me: "Do you need me as I am, with all the shortcomings and imperfections?" All this is familiar to me, but I decided: enough! What will I do? Nothing special: I’ll just go out without any embellishment. But it is interesting or boring to read my masterpieces - this is no longer my concern, the main thing is creativity. This is what Liz Gilbert stated in her book Big Magic. Creativity without fear ”. I completely agree with her.
6. I want to complete everything planned
But be that as it may, I will still check with the plan drawn up at the beginning of the year. I will tick off the items that have been completed and congratulate myself on this.
Well, if something failed to be done, I will not be upset and reproach myself. I'll just calmly try to figure out what is the reason for the failure, why it did not work out.
After that, I will think about whether it is really necessary to take this goal in the coming 2019th year. And only after that I will draw up an annual plan, taking into account all the points listed above.
All successful (of course, from your point of view) the coming year!
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