The question of whether my spouse should be in childbirth tormented me for a very long time. The terms of the contract allowed his presence from the first to the last moment, but I decided that my husband would definitely not go to the delivery room. I really didn't want my beloved to hear these inhuman screams and see a face distorted from pain. But about the prenatal, our opinions differed. I was only "for", but he could not understand how he would be able to help me. The husband made the final decision only in the hospital - he decided to stay. And you know, I am infinitely grateful to him, because the help of a loved one greatly facilitated my condition. So why do you need a husband during childbirth?
All stories about childbirth that I have ever heard or read can be divided into 2 types. Some of them ended with the categorical “Never again in my life!”, Others struck with the optimistic “I liked it so much! I will definitely give birth again! " Frankly, I never understood how childbirth can be pleasant ?! But, having joined the ranks of young mothers, I was surprised to realize that everything really went incredibly easy. The reason is simple - my beloved husband was nearby.
The question of whether my spouse should be in childbirth tormented me for a very long time. So why do you need a husband during childbirth?
My husband helped me walk
Not everyone knows about this, but in a standing position, the contractions are transferred much easier. And everything would be fine, but at a certain moment I realized that I could no longer take a step - my head was spinning, my legs gave way, my back ached with pain. Neither massage nor other procedures helped. In order to somehow alleviate my condition, my husband literally took me around the ward, supporting me by the arms. Our “walking walks” lasted up to 5 hours, but they made it possible to endure the cramping pain without any problems.
Controlled the frequency of contractions
Keeping up with the times, I installed the Contraction Counter on my phone in advance. But here, too, everything is not so simple! It was simply not enough strength to focus on breathing and simultaneously press buttons on the mobile. The husband again took over this important task - he recorded the beginning and end of the contraction and reported them to the doctor. This saved me an extra headache and allowed me to get more accurate indicators.
Served as secretary
Agree, there is nothing worse than ignorance - especially during childbirth! To endure the pain and not know when this is all over is just awful. The doctor sometimes came in, said something, looked, nodded his head and left. To understand what exactly was being said, my husband immediately went online and explained in detail what exactly was happening to me and to the baby. “The active phase of labor has begun. Half of the way has already been passed ”- thanks to these comments, I stayed in the loop of all events.
Amused, joked, made laugh
What better pain relief than constant walking and breathing exercises? Only funny jokes! Now I know for sure that if I stayed in the prenatal ward myself, I would cry sobbing out of self-pity. However, in the presence of my husband, I had no choice but to laugh at the witty posts on Facebook and laugh at the antics of the characters from the Friends series. Remember the episode in which Rachel gives birth to her first child? Even if you haven't seen this show, be sure to watch her during childbirth! Thanks to him, I was able to get away from the pain for at least an hour and laugh from my heart.
Kept the defense
Fighting off friends and family a few days before your due date is not an easy task. The closer this moment is, the more often the question “How? Has not yet given birth? And when is your deadline? " There are also those who are not too lazy to track the appearance of the expectant mother in social networks. “I haven’t come in for 6 hours. Most likely in the hospital. We need to call to find out! " Calls like these, ringing out at regular intervals, are very annoying. It was then that I once again needed my husband's help. He not only answered messages on my behalf, but also managed to fool my mother, who called literally every half hour. We didn’t even tell her that we had gone to give birth, because if she found out about it, she would have come to control the process.
And finally ...
As you can see, a husband in childbirth is very good. Thanks to him, for all 11 hours of labor, I never cried or screamed. And most importantly, he didn't have to do anything complicated. We did not even prepare for this process in advance - everything happened by itself. So if you have the opportunity to get such help, do not refuse it. In any case, the spouse can always go out into the corridor. And in the delivery room, capable of inflicting psychological trauma on a vulnerable male psyche, he will not be pulled by force. I think there is nothing for a man to do. Support each other, and let your story end on the same joyful note as mine: “I liked it. Obligatory face still! ".
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