8 bad habits we instill in children

The child learns everything that he sees and hears from adults. Our children copy us. This is a truth that we often overlook. But in vain. Children are our little copies. They notice everything, unwittingly adopting hurtful words, negative attitude and mood from us. Together, this adds up to habits that form a young character. In the case of good deeds and actions of adults, this works with a plus sign. But when copying our bad habits, children absorb and fix such negative for a long time. What bad habits we pass on to children.

Why do children copy us

In childhood, all children want to be like their mothers and fathers. We, adults, are an immutable authority for them. Watch your child play. You will notice that he repeats your words, mannerisms, gestures and movements. Children adopt the model of behavior that the adults around them adhere to.

As you can see, the responsibility of parents for how their child grows up is very high. So let's show children a good behavioral model with positive tastes, attitudes, moods. But it is not enough to tell them about it, one must become an example of such behavior ourselves. This means that adults need to get rid of bad habits first of all.

"Be the way you want your children to be"

Where do we start? Let's remember our bad habits, which we, one way or another, "pass on" by inheritance to our children.

1. Aggression and bad mood

Conflict with a colleague at work? Lack of money? Personal failures? There are many reasons for our bad mood and aggression. And we bring all this negativity into the house. And then Masha needs help with her homework or Petya wants to play with you. So we dump all the negative energy accumulated during the day on the kids: we talk nervously (even with someone else), irritably or reluctantly answer questions, justifying ourselves with being busy and tired. The child, absorbing this negative, will share it with others, and outbursts of aggression will become the norm for him.

2. Gossip

How sometimes you want to wash the bones of your acquaintances from work or friends who, in your opinion, did something wrong again. They won't hear anyway. Why not share with your family about how stupid / ugly / lazy and so on? The only pity is that our children are reeling at this time: discussing and condemning others is normal.

3. Dependence on gadgets

How often do we tell children that you cannot constantly sit at the computer or all the time "stare" at the phone / tablet. At the same time, we ourselves often correspond with someone on social networks or check mail at the table during lunch. Double standards are quickly noticed by a child, so the words about the harmful effects of gadgets will not have any effect on him. If you prefer the virtual world to the real one, why can't it? Show your child the best sides of the real world: walk more, communicate with people, play live games in nature.

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4. Violation of social norms and rules

Think about how you behave in public. Do not give way to the elderly in transport? Crossing the road in the wrong place? Leaving trash behind? Children will do the same. Your model of behavior in society will be copied by them and will become the norm. Therefore, do not break the rules yourself and teach your children to do this.

5. From a small lie to a big deception

Agree that we do not always speak the truth, justifying it by necessity or some kind of good purpose. Especially when we do not want to do something previously promised. And it's especially easy to do this over the phone. "Sorry, I feel so bad, I can't meet with you / I can't send you a report." We immediately come up with excuses for ourselves. And on a note to children, who, by the way, will practice this type of lies in the first place ... who would you think? A lie is still a lie. We do not advise you to resort to lies and all sorts of tricks, even for the benefit of the child himself. Subsequently, he will do the same; it is possible that he will lie to you too. Frequent desire to lie will become a habit.

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6. Alcohol and cigarettes

The example of a parent who drinks or smokes a lot is definitely negative. In the long term, the children of such parents are always dominated by the fate of becoming drug addicted. Do you need it? Why not teach your children to run every morning, do exercises, eat right? It is these habits that should become second nature to them.

7. Attitude towards others

Children cannot be fooled. Children always watch how we communicate with others - in stores, in government agencies, at the wheel, on a visit. And they notice all the details. If we are hypocritical, if we become rude and aggressive, proving our innocence, if, on the contrary, we are lost and cannot defend our rights. And, most importantly, if we do not give love to loved ones and friends. Children use your model of behavior and communication as a basis. Think about what qualities they should take with them into adulthood? Maybe this thought will help you reconsider something in yourself.

8. Foul language

Well, if you hit yourself with a hammer on your fingers, or your cup flew out of your hands - this is not a reason to start using foul language, especially in the presence of children. If this habit is so difficult for you to give up, try to find a suitable substitute for the "brightest" words in your vocabulary. After all, you do not want to learn from educators, teachers and other mothers in the yard, as your child colorfully calls the rest of the children!

Remember that your values will certainly become those of your children; your habits - over time, they will increasingly become manifest in your children. To pass on a spiritually rich heritage to your children, become yourself the bearer of good habits, from which, in general, a person is made up. And don't forget to truly love children. Remember this is your greatest legacy 🙂