12 signs of a bad mom

Being a parent is a difficult task, and even the most experienced mothers do not always cope with it, making a lot of common mistakes.

Scold the kid for the truth. If a child found strength in himself and confessed to a bad deed that he committed, but instead of the expected understanding and support, he received a reprimand from his parents.
Punish in the presence of strangers. We are talking not only about strangers, but also about close relatives. If you scold a child in front of their eyes, it negatively affects his self-esteem.
Constantly reproach the child. Requests to remove toys, go to bed, help around the house are certainly needed, because the baby should have his own responsibilities. But these requirements are best alternated with praise and affectionate words: the child should feel that he is loved.
Detach from what is happening. If a child tries his best to attract attention to himself and does everything for this, sometimes he does not even very good deeds (whims, tantrums, fights with peers on the playground), and the mother is busy with her own business and only periodically shouts at the baby ... It makes the child feel unnecessary.
Compare the child with others. For example, to say that the son of a friend is an excellent student, helps around the house, studies in a music school. It is important to remember that each baby is individual, he has his own character traits, and comparison in this case is inappropriate. The child will think that he is worse than others, he will have a wrong idea of his own worth.
Lack of praise. Affectionate words and approval of the mother are very important for the baby. To get them, he tries, makes efforts and achieves achievements. And for each age they are different: for a small child - the first word or a pyramid assembled from cubes, for a teenager - good performance at school. If the mother shows indifference, the child understands that he tried in vain.
Lack of emotion. When a mother constantly demands to restrain her emotions (not to express excessive joy, anger, resentment), the child develops the opinion that he has no right to them.
Do not teach in practice. Of course, it is much easier to ask the child to dress or wash the dishes on their own than to show and explain to the child how to do it.
Don't show your own example... A small child copies the behavior of his parents, not only good qualities, but also bad ones. Therefore, before demanding good behavior from the child, for example, hard work, honesty, perseverance, the mother needs to think about what kind of example she is giving him.
Lack of choice. Even the smallest child needs freedom, of course, it should not be global, but manifest in small things. For example, you can ask your baby to choose clothes for a walk, or choose on which site he will walk with his mother.
Pay off with gifts. Of course you need to pamper your child, but in moderation. And if you replace closeness with your mother with gifts and expensive things, the baby will feel lonely.
Lack of independence. If a mother does everything, even the most elementary, for the child, he will grow up helpless and unsure of his own strength. After all, responsibility and independence are qualities that need to be brought up in a child from childhood.