Classic children's blackmail - hysteria in the store. The problem is solved by the efforts of the mother.
“Give, give, give !!! Buy, buy, buy !!! ” Aaaaaa !!!!! I want-want-want this candyuuuuuuu !. How do you feel when a child starts asking for something in the store? And, sometimes, just hysterical? How can you prevent this behavior? What measures to take if the child does not concede?
I had a chance to live in Germany for almost a year in one German family in which they raised three children - one and a half, four and seven years. Their mother was able to build relationships with children in such a way that she became for me a model for solving many educational processes associated with my own kids.
We often went shopping together, but I never witnessed a single childish tantrum in the store. The girls were calm and polite and always helped their mother with purchases.
During this year, I was able to get acquainted with some simple ways of raising children by a mother from Germany. I think a few strategic lessons from an experienced mom will help you too.
Hysterical child in the middle of the store: 6 tips to avoid blackmail
1. Don't go shopping hungry
"You are not yourself when you're hungry". When a child is hungry, it is difficult for him to explain why he should not buy this chocolate or chips: these products are not classified as healthy food. The kid wants to eat, and becomes moody, whining. Adults act on the same principle: the more hungry they enter the store, the more junk food they put in the cart.
When you go shopping well-fed, decisions about purchasing this or that product become more deliberate.
2. Buy products strictly according to the list
When going shopping, make a list of the necessary products ahead of time with your child. Make it up together, listening to the baby's advice. Ask him which is better to buy: plain cabbage or broccoli?
Shopping on a pre-made list saves time in the store and helps explain to the child why an unplanned package of chips cannot be put into a shopping cart - the list was made together, and there are no chips on this list.
A child who has been entrusted with making a shopping plan with his mother will be more serious about adhering to it.
3. Take a snack with you on the road
If you have to go to the store for a long time, the baby may get hungry and capricious.
Let mom have something tasty, healthy, the so-called snack in her purse. What the child really likes. For example, an apple or nuts. Your baby may like other fruits or vegetables. It will be a great replacement for the fast food offered by shopping centers.
If the child is still young, cut the fruits and vegetables into slices to make it easier for him to eat. Do not forget to bring water with you on your trip.
4. Get your child involved in food choices
Ask your child to choose the healthiest, freshest, and tastiest food. Let him examine the product label. If he can read, he will pay attention to the expiration date.
Often in kindergartens, educators hold conversations about proper nutrition, expired products, and about not eating old and spoiled ones. The kid will be happy to apply his knowledge for the good of the family.
Thus, you will teach your baby to choose the right food. The person who has been given such an adult responsibility will take it very seriously.
5. Make shopping fun
In the store, you can arrange a variety of games that will distract your child from possible whims. Play with your child. For example, make a map in advance of those departments that you plan to visit and hand it to your baby. Let him lead you.
Ask your child to find the most beautiful package of pasta in the store. Or collect several products of the same color. Or show the funniest vegetable or fruit.
6. The child threw a tantrum in the store
In a situation where, despite all your efforts, the child still has a hysteria, count to yourself to ten. Or remember Carlson's favorite expression: "calm, only calm!" And try to hold on.
Under no pretext do you agree to fulfill the condition set by the baby: buy me this chocolate bar, then I will get up off the floor and stop crying. If you once refused your baby to buy a chocolate bar or a pack of cookies, stand firm.
Give in to the child's tantrum just once, and he will feel that this way he can always achieve what he wants. May you find yourself in a difficult and unpleasant situation today, may you see the judgmental views of others, remain firm in your decision. Then you will thank yourself for that.
At home, in a calm atmosphere, it is imperative to explain to the child how such tantrums are unacceptable in the future. Tell us how it looks ugly from the outside. And how this behavior upsets mom.
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